Help with a difficult family member!
My mother was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer about 3 months ago. She is in total denial about it, and thinks that talking about it in any way is negative thinking. So her "I'm fine. I'm going to be fine" mantra means positive thinking for her. Since the day of her diagnosis, she has not driven, and she pretty much spends her days in bed. Two weeks ago, she was taken via ambulance to the local hospital with a severe bowel obstruction, and has since had a transverse loop colostomy. She was discharged to a rehab center 3 days ago.
She is refusing to get out of bed. She is refusing to participate in her stoma care. She threw up when the nurse make her look at her stoma. Now she claims that she's too tired to manage anything, so she's letting the staff at the rehab hospital do it for her. She thinks that she is going home in a few days - that she doesn't need to be at the rehab facility.
I live 800 miles away, and while she has a few friends, a devoted cousin, and a super busy daughter-in-law who try their best to care for her, I'm concerned about her prognosis and the thought of her returning home by herself. She's fairly isolated, living in a very rural community 45 minutes from the hospital. I know that she's depressed, but I don't know what to do. She's avoided chemo like the plague (but keeps telling us that she's going to go). While I love my mother, she's driving me crazy with her unwillingness to even pretend to participate in her treatment. Help! Any suggestions are welcome! Thanks in advance! And, I have learned so much from your posts. You're my heroes!