It's perfectly ok
Wow, I am so sorry to hear how things have gotten for your dad. But am relieved to hear it hasn't taken a toll on the quality of his life. How old is your dad? if you don't mind me asking. Did they give a prognosis on his overall health or anything?
We found out that the cancer in my father's femur bone is from the kidney cancer he has in 08'. And the cancer on his lung is lung cancer. They both seem localized, except the lung looks like it has more opaque spots, though they're not showing as lesions.. still, those are not to be trusted. My father is still in the hospital and hopefully today we'll have some answers as far as a treatment plan goes.. Things have been changing day by day.. I swear. He still can not walk on his leg, they're afraid the tumor will break and his bone can splinter.
My dad found out he had kidney cancer when he had a small bit of blood in his urine and then could not urinate at all, there was a clot or blockage. We called his DR and they said he has to go to the ER, because he needs to be able to release urine. They did an ultrasound there and saw a tumor/mass and suggested he see a urologist ASAP. He met with the DR, they removed the entire left kidney and told my father it was 'encapsulated'? and did not spread, yet was stage IV. He never had an oncologist or anything aftwards. His primary DR did his blood work rountinley and sent it out to an oncologist to be checked. I guess blood work isn't good enough, since you can have tumors that are not detected unless a scan is done.
I am a bit angry that he was not followed properly afterwards. Are we to blame? Is his primary? His urologist? It's been almost 3 years and he had 1 CT scan done 3 months after his surgery.. and just blood work. My mom usually goes with him to his appointments, but my silbings, myself and other family members are very much involved and being supportive. Yes, you're right.. It's very difficult, for not only the relative dealing with this, but the family members as well. How has your family been coping with this? 5 years is a long time too..
I hope and pray your dad will be ok and the new med will work for him.