Althea and Lingstar - Thank you for the advice on the hospice. I guess I didn't think of that since I'm pretty sure my Father in Law will not make it out of the hospital. I will definitely look them up and see what they can tell me. The links were very helpful too.
Chazzy - My FIL opted for the radiation only since where the tumour was (in lung and wrapped around his heart) made surgery very iffy along with his age at the time (78). He may not have recuperated too well. Also the doc understandably could make no guarantees that it would help and his quality of life may have been drastically reduced because of the surgery. It's been almost 2 and a half years since he was diagnosed so I am very thankful for the extra time we had but it still doesn't make it any easier as I'm sure you all know. I sincerely hope that the chemo and radiation can give you and your mother that extra time. It's a gift from God.
Medphoto - I know just how you feel. We were told this Monday that it was a matter of days to possibly a few weeks but I feel he is getting worse very quickly. Both DH and I are spending all our time with him as I have no idea how much time there is left. I am doing exactly what you have suggested...telling him exactly how I feel about him, how thankful I am that he has been here for me and how much he means to me. God it's just so hard. Especially trying to keep myself under control and be strong for DH cause I know he is so scared, he has told me he is. He tries to be brave but I know he wants to run out of there screaming.
My heart truly goes out to all of you and I will say a prayer for everyone. Thank you for taking the time to write to me. It's so hard to go through this but at least there are people out there who understand exactly what I am going through. You are all angels...