Re: Dad not doing well and we are near the end
Your story brings back so many memories on the day I lost my dad, less than three months ago. I went through exactly what you are saying. It seems it won't be long now from what you've said. There is nothing you can do to stop the cancer from taking him away from this world but what you can do is just hold him, talk with him and let him know you are there. Even though he may seem like he's not understanding you, he is. He knows you are there. Hold his hand till the end. When it is over it will give you such comfort knowing that you were there and you stood by his side till the very end. When it comes to the last few hours the nurses will know. Our hospice nurses told us to help dad on his next journey. That was the hardest part for me. Telling my dad that it was OK to go to the other side. He can slip away now and there will be no more pain in heaven. That was so hard telling him this, but now after it is over, it is so true, he is in a much better place, out of pain. He is not physically here with me now but when I look to the sky I know he is here in spirit. He is with me every day. It is tough, the toughest thing I have ever done in my life, holding my daddy's hand and watching him pass away, but I am so gratefull I was able to be there and do this. I know I would have been having a much harder time if he ever passed away and I wasn't able to spend the last few days before he died with him. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, it will be so difficult to get through, but you will, and remember, he will always be in your heart! You will have the memories, they will last for your lifetime!