needtoknowga

My father is currently in the hospital now. He was diagnosed with stage four lung nsclc in jan. He is scheduled for four rounds of chemo. He has done two rounds, and both times he has been hospitalized and had to have HUGE amounts of fluid drained from his lungs. Yesterday before he had gotten to the hospital he was so weak where he could barely stand up and he could hardly eat. The doctor was trying to talk to my mother about hospice care but she was not trying to hear that. I think the doctor was trying to tell my mother that the cancer was getting worse but I see she is in denial. His pulmonologist says that they can put a catheter in that will automatically drain the fluid while he does his next chemo. But i don't know if my father can take all that. I do think that my father needs some kind of nurse at all times, cause when we try to make him eat he doesn't and he ends up getting dehydrated. Has anyone even heard of that thing that I described? can someone just give me some real facts and advice? Thanks.