Originally Posted by mom2o
eating? My mother hasn't eaten anything since March 22 - and then it was only watermelon and she threw up. She has lost 40 lbs in 47 days. I keep thinking the end is near but she's young and her heart keeps going. I am a nervous wreck and its unbearable to see her in this condition. What if any are signs that your loved one is going to die?
When my dad was ill with lung cancer we knew the end was near when he started sleeping more and becoming very disoriented. In his mind he was going back in time, he was reminising about old TV shows and talking in the past. Dad passed away 48 hours after that. Up until that though he was 'dad', he knew what was going on, he didn't look too bad. Toward the end he also became very fidigity, I believe it is called terminal agitation. He was getting up and down constantly, not really knowing what he wanted to do, sit up, lay down, it was extremely noticable. Our hospise nurse also knew when the end was near, she told us his extremeties would start to turn bluish grey. 24 hours before he passed away we saw that. About 12 hours before he passed he knew we were there, he looked at us and he kissed my mom many times, but it was hard for him to communicate in words, but he saw us and knew we were there. It was about 20 minutes before he passed that he went into unresponsivness. For me, this made everything easier, he wasn't fighting anything, he died peacefully in the arms of my mom, my sister, my brother and myself, we all had our arms around him during his last breath. As sad as it was and as difficult as it was I wouldn't want it any other way.
I know everyone is different and everyone has a different story but this was my experience. I hope it helps you in some way. I am so sorry to hear of your pain, it is very sad and my thoughts and prayers will be with you during this difficult time.