Hi Janice- I know excactly how you feel (kind of) Scott was (is) the same way, wit the positive attitude. But I have to tell you, I don't think he woudl have made it this far without that attitude. Scott does not ask questions either, that is why I take him to every Doctor's appointment he has, and I am generally the one asking the tough questions. The "really tough" questions, I do not ask with him in the room, I call them, or talk to them while he is in radiation. I want him to keep his positive attitude. But like you said, there is a fine line between "positive attitude" and "denial", it is tricky, and sometimes very frustrating.
The sore throat is common with radiation to the chest, because teh esophagus gets burnt. Scott is having this problem right now. I try to give him things that he can swallow, but even plain ole' water hurts. He eats mostly, popsicles (not ice cream, dairy products produces saliva, increasing the need to swallow) jello, scrambles eggs with cheese, boost, and the new cheetos puffed corn.. he loves this, it dissolves!
The memory issue is also natural, it can be called "radiation brain" or "chemo brain", because both cause short term memory problems, ususally temporary.
Yes, cancer is very difficult! It is the most heartbreaking, devastating, relentless disease I have ever seen. It makes me very angry. I take care of myself, because I know I have to. It would be so easy to get down, but I remind myself "scott needs me". I try to eat as best as I can, and sleep as best as I can. If I am not in good shape, I am no good for Scott. And, I want to take care of him to the best of my ability, and spend as much time with him as I can.
I pray for the best for your Sister. I have 2 sisters and I coudl not imagine going through this with either of them. And I pray for your strength, because she will need you as well.