Re: End Stage
You know, the only good thing about knowing the end is near is that you can say what you need to say and take care of whatever business you need to, hopefully before it's too late.
One thing I would have done is asked how to know when the end is near. When my mom was dying at home, she first stopped eating, because the body only takes in what it needs. A couple of days later, she stopped drinking. At this time, she had a catheter in, because she didn't want to have to keep getting up to pee.
She slept most of the time, opened her eyes very little.
In the last 2-3 days, when all liquid intake had ceased, the urine began to get dark. There was also sediment in it. I believe that her body began shutting down and as some parts began dying, the cells were shed in the urine. So that is one sign of the end coming. I would have like to have known the progression so I could have begun making final arrangements earlier.
I hope your sister doesn't have to be in pain or discomfort. Let us know how she is doing.