Mum has Passed Over .... - Cancer: Lung Message Board

JanieB · 08-19-2001, 10:31 AM

Dear Friends at Healthboards,
My mum passed over on Sunday 29th July, she was in the hospice and had a minor stroke, which meant she went into a coma and passed in her sleep....She went to sleep and never woke up....I am devastated, I have lost my best friend..My Mum, but I am in a way grateful she went in her sleep...She was in so much pain and she had lost the use of her legs due to the cancer spreading to the spine.. My memory is on the Friday I took her in her wheelchair to the hospice garden pond, it was warm and sunny and she had iced lemonade, we laughed and joked and enjoyed the sunshine, she told me how much she loved me ...and my hubby and daughter, those are my last memories of Mum..
I saw her straight after she had died and she looked so peaceful just asleep...The hospice rang me in the early hours of the morning to say Mum had deteriorated quickly, but she died before I got there....even though we rushed she was dead in a few minutes....
My mum is now at peace...I want to thank everybody that replied with advice and help...You are a good bunch...With loads of Love Janie xoxooxoxox

Lori · 08-19-2001, 10:33 PM

Dear Janie,
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss

What a sweet memory of your Mother.
Deepest sympathy,
Lori

rosalita100us · 08-24-2001, 05:52 AM

My mother passed from lung cancer about a year ago. Like you she was my best freind. Greif is a process you just have to go through this is what I find will happen. First you cry every day,s everal times a day, then every other day, a couple of times a week and so on on ce amonth. Pretty soon you think your greif is under control and something little will set you back. Like the last thing for me was my dad sent me a bithday check and her name wasn't on the checks.You just have to flow with it and do whatever your body tells you you need to do, and don't ever let anyone tell you you should get on with your life. They were our mothers for god sakes. One thing I found that helped me when you are slightly better(for me it was 6 months into it) was I found the vcr tapes, some long ones on her talking, joking and being herself(not sick with cancer) when i am lonely for her i watch them. They can't compare to looking at a picture.Just keep yourself going and cry whenever and how often you need to cry.

Cancerpatientwife · 09-01-2001, 02:04 AM

I was very sorry to hear about your Mum. My husband has almost the same diagnosis. Large cell carcinoma of right lung with near obstruction to the vena cava. I couldn't believe when I read your post! We have been seeking alternative treatments since his oncologist gave up on him. He basically told him to go home and enjoy the time he has left with me. This was because the cancer had started to spread to the liver and bones. Again, I am amazed that your Mum had exactly the same condition. I can't imagine losing my mother, or my husband for that matter. I must tell you that through this experience our love for each other has reached a new level. His courage gives me strength and he would say that my strength gives him courage. We are looking at all alternatives: nutrition, vitamins, herbs, heat and ozone therapy, and we have seen some improvement. I only found this site tonight. Please accept my sorrow & remorse about your Mum. This is the most frightening experience I've ever gone through, I can only imagine how you must be feeling. Please feel free to write me. I know you must be in a lot of pain. Time heals.

Diane