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Dear Bluebell,
I was in your shoes less then 6 wks ago. I mean I was asking how long so I could let others know. I felt so very responsible (!!) so, our children would be by his side. You know only God knows the answer to that. I knew that too, but still kept asking!
With my husband at age 56, when he would not drink any (food) drinks it was about 5 days left. (a nurse suggested 7 to 10 days, left) With my husband, also he had 4 days, left on only sips of water for his dry mouth.
But, I have read enough to know that nobody is the same.
My husband also, made a face of severe pain and grabbed his heart area two days before he died.
The last day.....he could not really see anyone, you could tell. And, he seemed to be off in and out of a deep, deep sleep, as breathing became extreme, very extreme work for him! Breathing was all he was able to do, anymore.
He would moan, as if in pain, constantly, but minutes apart..he did that for almost 3 days. It was so hard for all the family to lisen to, seriously. We all got on each others nerves those hours. Everyone left, because, of that tension!
Within 2 hrs after all had gone.. he died. If only, we had of known the hours were limited. So, very limited! The all wanted to be there.
About an hour before he died, his breathing was ..all of a sudden easy...but, only because he was barely breathing, I know now.
I had washed him all up, then,,, my instinsts telling me to. Then I sat and watched him breath for less than an hour.
But, listen to this. I watched him for over a year, wanting to 'Be There'. I went into the kitchen for seizure pills, and he died that minute!
We cannot control...all we want to.
So, you see nobody knows for sure. Thank God, He is in control. Or, responsibilites, just about all we humans can handle!
God Bless you and your family. I write this with true hope to help, Christian Love, Donna

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