Our last post was giving information on the final stages we were beginning to see with our mother.
10/04/05 She passed away. One week after this post. The funeral is this Saturday..
Our goal in coming here was to get information on Mom's illness. It was extremely frustrating not being able to find the information we wanted while searching books and internet.. You sit there with someone you love so dearly dieing from SCLC and you are the primary caretaker. You want to know what to expect, what are the stages, what to look for, ... sitting there in the unknown, for us, was so difficult. Our mother is no longer here, she is in Heaven dancing with Jesus. She is at peace, she is strong, healthy, happy, no longer in pain.
We want to post to anyone in the same situtation so hopefully it will help them to know what signs to look for. We realize they say all are different, but maybe our experience might help another.. The final week:
The weakness was more extreme. We had to pick her up, help her up, no longer at all able to walk and was put on a cathider..
Saturday (she passed the following Tuesday) She was barely able to swallow if at all and stopped eating
Sunday, no longer able to drink water.
Monday, was extremely restless and didn't sleep for approx. 14 hrs. She wanted to sit up, couldn't get rested to sleep at all.
Monday night around 12:30am.. after heavy doses of morphine and such (creams, dropper under tongue, injections, patches) she finally drifted off to sleep.
Tuesday the aid came in and bathed her and she didn't awaken at all.. she never did. The Hospice nurse came in, her blood pressure extremely low, heart rate high, running fever. By 4:35pm she left us.
Her fear of lung cancer wasn't dying.. it was HOW she would die.. she feared sufficating. She did not as everyone had told her she wouldn't.. IT WAS EXTREMELY PEACEFUL..
The blotchy skin and the skin discoloration in her feet did not happen until after her passing. We never saw that till after.
4 days before her passing she had a vision with my sister Molly sitting at her side. Molly wrote down what they said and I'd like to share it with you all here.
Betty (our dear Mother) In His Presence!!!
Mom woke up and wanted to sit up.. then she was asking why cant she stand, why cant she walk...I told her God was going to take her soon.. Told her God was preparing her Mansion... we just talked about heaven... then she said I can see it.. I can see .. I said what do you see momma? this is how it went
Mom: I see Daddy (grandpa)
Me: Is he happy?
Mom: yes he is smiling
Me: What else do you see?
Mom: Flowers, beautiful Flowers
Me: what color are the flowers?
Mom: Pink, white and light green.
Me: What are you wearing?
Mom: a robe
Me: What color?
Mom: pretty light green
Me: What else do you see?
Mom: Momma, her hair is white (grandma)
Me: does she still have wrinkles?
Mom: no, pretty smooth skin, she is smiling at me
Me: Can you see any angels?
Me: what do they look like?
Mom: thousands of them, they are too bright...I cant see their faces.. Just REAL BRIGHT.
Me: Mom, are they coming for you?
Mom: I dont know
Me: give them your hand mom
Mom: I want to go with them... bye baby
Me: go ahead mom,, go with them
Mom: stressed look on her face suddenly
Mom: God said not yet!
Mom: not yet!
Me: he is letting you see a glimpse of what's to come.
Mom: I want to go with the angels
Me: God will let you soon
Mom: Ok... God said not yet
Me: did you see the gates of heaven?
Me: what did they look like?
Mom: light blue... prettiest light blue I ever seen.
That was about it... omg it was sooo amazing!