I need some hope from someone, anyone...re:surgery
Not sure if anyone is familiar with my previous post about my mom's condition. If not, her NSCLC is located near her left clavicle, & all wrapped around the nerves & vessels there. We were told it is a met. from her left breast, which still makes no sense to me, how does breast cancer turn into NSCLC in a person who has been a NON-SMOKER all her life? I'm very frustrated. We got the MRI results from yesterday back & the cardiothoracic surgeons say they can not operate, that it is too involved & would cause her more problems. However they are having a neurosurgeon look at the MRI also to see if they can remove any part of it affecting the nerves. Her onc. says they will move on to a 3rd type of chemo. now & see if that will help at all. She's had adriamycin/cytoxin and carboplatin/taxol, but I guess this thing has not responded like they thought it would.
My question is basically...how much of a chance does she really have without surgery to remove all or at least part of the cancer? Everything I read makes it sound like she doesn't have much of a chance of even getting near remission without surgery.
Should I be thinking I'm going to lose my mother soon? Should I try to wrap my mind around that? Because I can't. She's only 51. She & my dad have been together for 33 years. He's trying so hard to be strong, but I can tell this is killing him. I can't imagine him without her, or her without him. I'm 31 & have 2 kids, my son is 4 years & my daughter is only 4 months. My husband is wonderful & is trying his best to help me. But I'm finding myself very angry inside, which no one knows. I want my mom to be in my life long enough to see my kids grow up. And even longer than that. I feel like such a kid saying this, but it's just not fair. All my grandparents lived into their 70's & 80's, 2 of which are still alive, & they all smoked. My mother-in-law is 67 and smoked, yet she's in perfect health also. My father-in-law has been a wine & scotch drinker every day for who knows how long, at least as long as I've been with my husband (12 years), yet he's in perfect health also at 68. And that's just a few that I've been pondering, asking myself how the heck have they all gotten away with all that? Why is my poor mother suffering like this when she never abused her body a day in her life?
I'm sorry, I'm just so full of anger & sadness right now, I feel like it could completely swallow me. And please, no offense to any smokers here, that's not my intent at all.
Can anyone give me a glimmer of hope?