unfair - Cancer: Lung Message Board

nana99 · 04-29-2006, 06:31 PM

My husband just got his C.T. Scan results and his tumor has shrunk to size of a pea and no Mets.We were really happy about the results until she told us he now has primary kidney cancer. The tumor is very small and the doctor wants to just observe it, But my husband wants to have his kidney removed.(appointment with the Surgeon 9th May)
It is so unfair that he now has to deal with kidney cancer and lung cancer. He is very strong and he is holding up better than me.I try to be strong for him but it is hard sometime.

God bless and you all are in my prayers.

tuckygal · 04-30-2006, 09:27 AM

Hello nana, yes it is all so hard to understand and even harder sometimes to be strong. It seems each of us can handle a lot more than we thought. Your husband and you and family are in my prayers each day. One of my aunts had a kidney removed years ago, and lived on into her late eighties. We never know what is ahead, do we? Keep the faith and take care of yourself too. Love from Ky.

Kimslos · 04-30-2006, 10:29 AM

Hi,
Sorry to hear of your husband's saddening news...you were so excited to hear the good news and then you get the blow of the kidney cancer...life is unfair and you cannot do a thing to change that sadly enough...but to enjoy the time you have and enjoy every day. My husband has SCLC and usually I can deal with it...but yesterday was one of those days (even today a little tough) and I must really tell myself I can cry, I can scream...but in the end I must be there for my boys. I have thrown many pity parties in the last couple of months as I see my husband worsening...but I hate seeing him in pain and suffering. I try my hardest everyday to make him laugh and give him the best day he can given his situation not knowing when his last day will be. I can completely understand how hard this is for you and to let you know this board has done wonders for me...my friends are good to me, but my friends on the posting board are going thru the same thing so it seems they can relate much better. I hope you can find some comforrt on this posting board. Take care of yourself...I will be thinking of you as I do the others on the board....
Hugs,
Kim

nana99 · 04-30-2006, 03:48 PM

Thank you Kim & Ky, it really helps to have support and comfort from you both. Reading this posting board had helped me get thru the last 9 months.
You and your families are all in my thoughts and prayers.
God Bless and stay strong.

Kimslos · 04-30-2006, 10:44 PM

Hi-
Just wanted you to know I am thinking about you and your husband and hope he is coping okay. I don't blame him for wanting to remove his kidney. I just felt terrible when I read what he has been thru...my husband was walking around the house today in tears asking why him...broke my heart and wish I could tell him all th pain and cancer will be gone but I cannot make such a promise. (especially as I see him declining in health) Anyway, just wanted you to know you are in my thoughts....
Kim