Re: New here
I too am fairly new to this. My Ma (age 64) was diaognosed with non operable NSCLC on 10th August, so I guess I'm about a month ahead of you.
She was bouncing around healthy as anything before that.
I can honestly say I barely 'coped' in those first few weeks, as she was so ill and had to have lung/heart ops because of infusions (fluid from tumour) and then we had the blood clots...and I thought she was going to die before she even got to try chemo.
I used to wake up in the morning howling, and was frantically reading up on lung cancer each night. I could barely function and was going around in a daze. To begin with I kept crying in front of my Ma, which was no good.
When we thought she was about to die I got perscribed some beta blockers from the doctor and some valium for absolute emergencies. I just wanted them at home 'in case' I needed as I wanted to be together for her.
I've barely touched them.
I know these past couple of months I've lost alot of sleep, nursed too many gin and tonics and not been eating properly. I wouldn't even go for my usual swim as it meant being away from the telephone for 20minutes! nor visit friends with my young daughter if it meant being too far away.
When I finally calmed down a bit, went for that swim and maybe had a relaxing bath or something - it helped alot!!
Take Care and Try Look after yourself (easy to say I know) - My Mums about to have her 2nd chemo session and so far it's making a really big difference and not making her ill. Let us know how your Dad gets on.