| Re: Losing The Will
I am sorry I don't have any specific suggestions other than I believe sometimes we as spouses/caregivers have to be patient and be strong for them. That is an enormous burden to have to carry at times and I suspect this is one of those times for you. All I can tell you from my personal experience is that I am strongest when I cast those cares and concerns upon Christ. My wife is not a real strong fighter like some, but she is fighting. I have learned to accept that and simply do my best to encourage, support and sometimes coach her. However, I don't know what it feels like to have cancer, feel horrible and fatigued most of the time, knowing the odds are against you and having people tell you to "be strong" and to "fight". So I try to balance things with hope and sensativity.
Perhaps what your husband needs is a "boost" or an opportunity to be in a position to fight. I pray the feeding tube is effective in giving him the strength and nutrition he needs and I certianly pray for you as well.
God bless you both,
conan
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