My mother is dying. - Cancer: Lung Message Board

DanielleRenee · 03-04-2007, 01:42 PM

I have just turned 15. I found out about a month ago that my mom has lung cancer. She is only 41. She went through surgery this past friday, then we found out the cancer spread and they cannot take it out. Doctors say she may only have a few more years left. It's hard to think of what it will be like with out my mother. We never had a very close relationship because my parents have divorced. But now i hate to think that i wont be going to see her every summer. And i wont be getting phone calls from her on holidays and my birthday. I cry myself to sleep every night. A mother is supposed to be a daughters best friend right? My mom will never see me graduate, or get married and have kids. The worst thing of all is that she lives two states away. I wont be there to hold her hand. or tell her how much i love her and will miss her. I dont know what to do..My mom is me..I am my mom. A part of me will be gone forever.

canadadiva · 03-04-2007, 05:07 PM

I am so sorry to hear about your mom, that is awful. She is young and sometimes life just isn't fair. I hope you can make the most of the time you have left. Are you able to visit her? If not then maybe you could just talk on the the phone or send letters. Letters are nice because you can keep them forever. God Bless.

Hammer6401 · 03-04-2007, 05:42 PM

I am deeply saddened to hear about your Mom. It is an awful disease. There is not a lot to say that can take away your fears or your pain....I know because I have been there...I lost my Father to cancer in 2005. I am 35 years old, now and miss him every day....but it gets easier...I have morre happy thoughts about him than bad ones...If I could give you any advice it would be to go and spend some time with her...it will do wonders for her and will help you in the long haul too....i spent a lot of time with my Dad and put everything else on hold....it meant the world to him....I know in my heart I did all I could to help him...even if it meant just sitting by his bed and holding his hand....you never forget those moments....they are golden....your mother needs you now...go be with her if you can. Take care and God bless to you and your Mother...

Kimslos · 03-04-2007, 10:12 PM

I was very saddened to read your posting. I had to tell my son when he was 15 that his dad was diagnosed with lung cancer and they only gave him 6-18 months. My son is now 17 and my husband is still here, fighting hard and the days are tougher, but our sons have got to have some very special times with their dad.(we also have a 10 year old) I know it is not fair for someone so young to have to lose a parent. We honestly never thought my husband would have made it to 21 months so try to stay postive as you never know! Even though you live far away from your mom given the world we live in today you have so many ways to get closer to your mom via the phone or computer. Is there a way you can spend some time with your mom during school breaks and during the summer? I will pray that you can get closer to your mom and one day when and if she has passed away you will be able to know you put a smile on your mom's face and made her feel loved.
Kim

conan1017 · 03-05-2007, 06:47 AM

Hi Danielle-

Kim is right ...it is "if" and "when". My wife is 43 and we have two 16 year olds at home ....and I can tell you that when they support her, I see a big difference in the way she fights this disease.

I know it is a heavy burden to place on such a young person as yourself, but you can make a B-I-G difference in your mom's survival/longevity. I hope you will share with her the things you have shared here. I promise you, it will mean the world to her.

God bless you Danielle,

conan