Life goes on ... but a piece stays behind - Cancer: Lung Message Board

tammo · 03-13-2007, 06:03 PM

Hi Everyone,
I haven't posted here in a bit but still read the posts. I guess it's my way of hanging on somehow? I still can't get over how much pain this disease causes people. My dad died on January 11th this year of lung cancer. We only had 2 weeks to prepare and really can you ever prepare? Life has gone on I guess but it is very different. My mom is alone at 60 just retired and is trying to get some kind of life for herself. She likes to talk about my dad alot and I still can't talk about him because it hurts too much. His birthday was last week and it was tough. There are still moments when I can't believe he is gone to the point that I actually walk into their house and forget. Please tell me this gets easier. I do have good days but then something will remind me of him and my heart sinks... Take care everyone!
Tammy

mbaresi77 · 03-14-2007, 10:45 AM

hi tammo,

i wanted to respond to this.. my mom passed away almost 3 months ago.. when i first i wrote something on here, you replied that you had a similar case.. i wanted to reply and say life will go on, right now its rough for everyone as i said my mom's been gone for about 3 months and i still cry almost everyday, i cry when i see pictures or when someone just talks about a memory with my mom.. i still catch myself going to call and talk to her on the phone as i did everyday several times a day.. i visit her grave and talk to her everytime im there.. this will take awhile for us. but our hearts will heal in time but never forgetting how wonderful they were to us... they will be in our heart forever... please take care of yourself and your mother it must be really hard on her and it is on my dad..

GODBLESS

Toni

Hep · 03-14-2007, 12:22 PM

My dad passed away February 5. His birthday would have been next week. My mom is alone too now. I totally feel what you are feeling. I have really good days and then I have a real blow out that sets me back a few paces. I am sure we will make it through as our dad's would have wanted us to.

Please know you are not alone. I check back to this site too hoping to see good news once in a while.

tammo · 03-14-2007, 03:11 PM

Thanks Toni. I am very sorry for your loss. It's nice to be on this site with people who understand. I hope you find the peace you need. I completely understand what you're feeling. I'm just trying to stay sane and feel like I need to bury this a bit so I can deal a little at a time. It's so hard! I guess the shock is wearing off and maybe that's what I'm feeling.((( hugs)))
Thanks you have helped me feel better.
Tammy

tammo · 03-14-2007, 03:12 PM

Thanks so much for reply. Sorry for your loss. I know I'm not alone this and that helps tremendously.
Tammy