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Hi Leslie and welcome to the board.
My wife was diagnosed with stage 4 nsclc (same as your mom) last July. Hers likewise had spread to the bone. At the time there was just one known lesion in the skull, but now a small one on the spine as well. However it does not seem to be a serious problem at the moment, by that I mean the bone lesions are not causing any problems or pain. I think the fact that it has progressed to the bone simply shows the how far the cancer has progressed. Even now, there is no set time tables for my wife's survival.
There are a number of factors that play into how long one may survive. One is other non-cancer related health issues that might make treatment difficult. As for my wife, she is young (43), never smoked and does not drink. Other than LC, she has no other health issues. Those are physical advantages, however stage 4 nsclc is a monsterous disadvantage. Another factor is an individuals desire and determination to live. My wife is not real strong in that category, so I try to keep her inspired and motivated. But what makes it so hard is how terribly awful and fatigued they feel from everything and then they have loved ones telling them to "fight". Which is why I believe prayer is the most important factor, becuase no one can inspire like God.
I could ramble on but to answer your question "it all depends" on a number of variables which sometimes the oncs can see a predictable pattern and make educated gueses. If I were you ...I would not focus on trying to make guesses about your mom's survival. Just do all you can to see that she is getting the best treatment available to you and keep living your life because nobody really knows. I was told to prepare for the worst and hope for the best. Tonight my wife was feeling okay so we went out to dinner with friends, and not once did we talk about cancer. We do that when necessary, but our focus is still on our family as we just take it one day at a time.
God bless,
conan
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