How is Patsy? - Cancer: Lung Message Board

Kimslos · 04-15-2007, 11:30 PM

Hi Conan,
I was just checking in to see how Patsy is doing. I think of you often and have not seen an update on how she is doing. I hope your Easter was special and she was able to enjoy the day with the family.
Anyway, I am drained emotionally so off to bed. It has been a long, emotional weekend between Stan having a tough weekend and a funeral for a friend. (yes, cancer)
Kim

rockie · 04-16-2007, 06:19 PM

Conan, I second Kim's thoughts. I had not seen you post in a while and prayed that Patsy was still hanging on and improving. Please, when you can, let us know. Always, you and your little family are in our thoughts and prayers.

Peace, love, healing, and ALWAYS...prayers...

Jan

conan1017 · 04-16-2007, 08:38 PM

Hi Kim,

Patsy is doing fairly well. However, we were in the ER til 3:00 last night because she got dehydrated ...which was due to a virus she had. So I have been running on 2 1/2 hours of sleep and just came home from playing a double-header soft ball game. I don't regret it at all. 2 or 3 times a week I get a chance to get out with Shayne and be a kid again. You are right Kim, we all need an outlet. However, you feel it alot more when you get older

I am so sorry you had such an emotionally draining weekend. The strange thing is that you never no what tommorow might bring ...like that time Stan got out for the day. I pray that you have more special moments and "good days" to share. What treatment is Stan currently on? I sure have missed our talks, superwoman. Please let us know how you are doing and how we can better support you.

Jan, thanks for thinking of us. As I said, Patsy is doing fairly well. It appears that the Tarceva has halted the progression, but on the other hand we haven't made any significant progress against it.

I am glad to see you because I have been wondering how you've been. If you don't mind me asking, how are you have you been coping lately? You appear to be holding so well ...but like Bud, your a fighter too. I pray that God continue to direct you and comfort you as you continue your journey. As you do, I believe the "day" will come when we will all be able to look back through the valley which God has brought us through and then maybe we will understand "why" we suffer as we do.

Keep the faith,

conan

Kimslos · 04-17-2007, 11:41 PM

Hi Conan,
No wonder you were in my thoughts so much and then to come to find out Patsy was in the ER! I do hope and pray she is feeling much better and is keeping hydrated! Patsy sounds like an amazing woman with an amazing man standing by her side! I keep you two in my thoughts and prayers for the Tarceva to do the trick and let Patsy enjoy life to the fullest. It was odd but a couple of days ago Stan and were talking and for almost the last 2 years I have been taking care of him and forgot what it was like when he went to work everyday and before he became sick we just took that for granted. We just cherish the moments now when he can come to the kitchen and eat with all of us and talk with the boys. It is great you have an outlet and can play softball with Shayne and hopefully smile and laugh some while out on the field.
Oh Conan, if you only could know what a wonderful lady Jan truly is! She has been wonderful to me along with many others on this posting board!
I too miss our talks on the posting board, but with our schedules I know it makes it hard but I am trying to visit the board more often.
I am fading and need some sleep, but wanted to thank you for getting back regrading Patsy.
You remember to take care of youself. Oh, Stan had a doctor's appt yesterday and he is losing weight but on top of it retaining fluid in his feet/ankles and legs so they are getting concerned. He had some blood work for kidney function. He is also not eating like he use to and sleeps most of the time. I will keep you posted.
Take Care and thanks for your support!
Kim Slosarczyk

conan1017 · 04-19-2007, 08:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Kimslos

It was odd but a couple of days ago Stan and were talking and for almost the last 2 years I have been taking care of him and forgot what it was like when he went to work everyday and before he became sick we just took that for granted. We just cherish the moments now when he can come to the kitchen and eat with all of us and talk with the boys.

Kim-

What you said is both heart-breaking and heart-warmimg. When I look back 2 years ago I realize that I too took so muh for granted. I remember when I was going to school at night, I would come home from work and play with the kids til dinner was on the table, spent some tilme with Patsy, then I was off to study while she continued to take care of these things. But you have to understand, that is what she loved to do. I found a paper she wrote in high school once where she outlined her ambitions as simply being a wife and mother. Her worst nightmare was to have her kids in child care while she worked, so we lived modestly and she made a career out of homemaking. Now she gets depressed because she cannot do near what she used to and I have for now given up school to try to maintain what we had. However, I can't manage it like she did ..even with help.

Most of what we had has been taken from us .....except for our love for one another. We have truly kept our vows "for better or worse" in the most sincere way. But oh how deperately I try to create opportunities for those special moments and it doesn't happen ...but comes when you least expect it. At any rate, like you and Stan, we cherish those moments.

It has been a draining last couple of days as we have had a virus going around. I am also seeing changes in the little ones (more anxiety) whiich concerns me. It makes me wonder how your boys are doing? Have you seen them go through different stages as long as Stan has been sick?

Also, what are you oncs planning at this stage? Will Stan be going in for more regular visits? I hope I am not being intrusive, but it truly weighs on my heart and quite honestly, I don't knwo what to say other than I am here if you need me. As always, you all are in my thoughts and prayers.

conan