my daughterinlaws stepdad - Cancer: Lung Message Board

golden_eagle · 09-04-2007, 05:16 AM

We just recieved the bad news that my daughterinlaws stepdads lung cancer has spread to the bone but they dont know if its secondary or the primary cancer
I was shocked to hear of the news as somewhere deep inside me i thought he was going to be alright. He looked so healthy and ahhh, i dont know what to think, i have to break the news to my daughterinlaw, this would have to be the hardest thing i have had to do so far knowing the poor little darlins need for her parents love. GOD, if i had one wish it would be to wipe this disease off the face of the planet, i feel so angry, i lost my mum to cancer and it was an ordeal that will haunt me for the rest of my life, I know how she will feel and i ust hate it,
sorry i am rambling
golden_eagle

Janmarie2 · 09-05-2007, 09:51 AM

Golden Eagle

Sorry to hear about the bad news. I am glad your daughter in law has someone as caring as you there for her as that will make the world of difference to her.

It is amazing how sick with cancer one can be and still appear to be healthy. I have to tell you a little story about my mom. In May 2004 I took my parents out for brunch on Mother's day and as I sat across from my mom I suddenly noticed how old and frail she did look. I almost broke into tears as a voice deep inside me said this will be the last mother's day you spend with her as she will not be here next mother's day. I just as quickly dismissed that thought or tried too as my mom was 80 and at that point we did not know about the cancer.How dare that thought even creep into my mind!

It was the very next month, June that my mom went to the emergency room with severe shortness of breath and the pleural effusion was found and her battle with lung cancer began. The average person would have looked at my mom on that mothers day and would have seen a healthy old lady but there had to have been something there that I picked up on. I have since learned to always listen to that little voice inside me as it seems to always know the truths. Could it be the Voice of God? I belive that God can be found within all of us so it may be that. Anyway I did have two more mother's days with her thanks to the chemo and Tarceva. If there are any words of wisdom from my story I think it is to listen to that voice that comes from deep inside us, Tell your daughter in law to do so and I am sure God will guide her through this difficult time. I am not a very religious person but I am very spiritual and believe 100% in God.

With your help your daughter in law will get through this no matter what the outcome is.

Cancer is not the only disease I would like to wipe off this planet as there are many that are just as bad.One of my coworkers of the pat 20+ years just lost her beautiful 19 yr old daughter to cystic fibrosis this past Sunday.Loosing my mom was very difficult but I think loosing a child would be more so. Breaks my heart. I had better get to bed as after working all night I am having a hard time focusing on what I write. Good luck telling her about her stepdad.

JanMarie