My mum is 80 and has lung cancer
It all happened today. Mum has had a month of xrays and tests and we found out that mum has Stage 1B lung cancer. She is nearly 80. Dad had a stroke 5 years ago and mum has being the primary carer. She now weighs only 42 kg. An operation is out of the question and radiotherapy is all she can physically deal with. We were told today if mum does nothing she has 12-18 months, with radiotherapy maybe up to 5 years, but unlikely. Dad sort of understands, but not really, and for mum to be able to deal with her future and what is happening to her, it means we need to find a nursing home close to home for dad. How do people deal with this when you love your parents so much? This is all about about mum and dad. How can we the right thing so they feel secure, loved and at the same time keep dignity?