Please help, Dad dying, Liver Cancer - Cancer: Pancreatic & Liver Message Board

Diva10 · 11-29-2004, 07:44 AM

Not sure if I am in the right forum, i will give it a try anyway.
I have already posted in liver disorders, now I will try here

My dad had to have his gall bladder removed due to gall stones. The surgery was cancelled by the anesthesia doctor because no stress test was given for his heart, well they found that he had 80 to 90% blockage in the main artery but could not due surgery because of the fluid that had suddenly built up in his belly, so they drained it and had to find out what caused it so they eventually did a biopsy on his liver.

They diagnosed him with liver cancer and after doing a ct scan, said there was nothing that could be done for this type of cancer, said he had a 7 cm tumor on the inside of his liver, that it had not spread it was only in the liver and gave him six months to live and told him chemo could maybe prolong his life a few months, but that would be it.

He has decided not to take chemo for his grand kids sake, what is another 2 months. I have been looking up a lot of things on the internet and have maybe gotten my hopes up for not. I do not want to go with my dad about the info for incase I just read what I wanted it to say.

After reading all i read, it is just hard for me to accept that there is nothing they can do and that i only have another 4 or 5 months with him.

Please help, any info or advise would be much appreciated.
Thanks in advance

Ruth6:11 · 11-30-2004, 06:24 AM

People hang onto hope for as long as they can - and that's ok.
In my family's case we hoped for a cure - and then gradually that changed to hoping that our Dad would be at peace without pain.
With the help of Hospice (I strongly recommend them) we attained that second hope.
No one can be expected to accept the news that one's parent is dying. And that there really is nothing that humans can do. We go through stages from denial, etc. to a final acceptance at the news that someone or ourselves will not live forever.

Hope is a good thing. Just be aware that what you hope/pray for may change a bit over time...

Diva10 · 11-30-2004, 11:34 AM

Thank you so much, my dad, I think, does not want to take treatments of any kind,even if there were more avaliable to him, Does not want to put his grand-kids through that, although not giving up, everyones prayers will help, if it is god will.
40% of his liver is nolonger working, so we have to pray for him and strength.
Just like with your dad i guess, please stay strong.
I am trying and will keep praying for a miracle.
We will get a Christmas miracle, my dad comes from a very close family of six brothers and sisters, my dad has been all over the world and the only place he has ever got excited about was the Grand Canyon, that is the only place he ever said he wants his kids and grandkids to see it one day because that place in itself is a miracle, well so he says. well aunts and uncles and friends have all gotton together and collected money to send my family of 8, my sisters of 5 and my dad and mom to the grand canyon for christmas. That really made him happy, he could not belieave it. Have not seen him smile when we told him, like that in a long time.
So if all stays the same and he is in good health and spirts then we will be going.
thanks
prayers,prayers Veronica

Ruth6:11 · 12-07-2004, 02:49 PM

How are things going, Diva??
The prayers continue,

ronnic · 12-08-2004, 07:15 AM

Veronica,

i was told on dec. 3 that i have hepatocelluar carcinoma.

my tumor is 8cm and they are planning on removing it and burning or freezing about 6 small ones. Age may play a factor on whether surgery is an option. ( i am 43) But you may want to ask about that. The doctors i saw yesterday are feeling good about my surgery. At least that is what it sounded like. by the diagrams he showed me a lot of my liver will no longer be with me, but the liver regenerates.

I hope you all enjoy that vacation. my prayers are with you.

ronni