sjb

Hi there, Well an In-law of mine had cancer for nearly 2 years before he notified us about it. He had a poor appetite for a few months before this notification. He had radiation therapy which I view as unsuccessful. We might have been able to help him survive if we had known about it. A different relative survived a cancer bout and hers was 8 years ago, she has been declared free of it. When I found out my in law had it I tried to help him with some nice tasting grape juice freshly made from a juice machine but for him I think it was too thick and pulpy the way I did it and so he didn't like it. After the first glass he would not take any more. He did not want to even try the vegetable juice without pulp. I found out he was not eating well either. He was on stool softeners I think if I remember right.(it has been a few years now) I never saw any vomiting but that does not mean he never had any. He weakened very fast after he started refusing food. Then they increased his pain meds and he seemed less conscious and said he had no pain but was not able to drink all that much fluids. His urine turned black and it was the first time I had ever seen black urine in spite of the fact that I have seen urine of many a person. I mentioned the black urine to the hospice nurse she said it was because of his liver. It was at this point they moved him to a hospice hospital instead of with the VNA hospice section and less than 24 hours later he was gone. We thought he had cancer of the liver from the first but then he also said he had cancer of the prostate. We asked the doctor about this and we discussed it together, on the final death certificate it said cancer of unknown origin. He died very shortly after making his will out and after the doctor told him he would not last long. My surviving cancer relatives story I think I put on a different post if you want I think I may be able to relocate it for you and tell you where it is if you are interested.