Brother-in-law has rectal + anal cancer
Hi, I have been around the cancer sites on the Healthboards for some time, but this is a first for this board.
My brother-in-law has rectal + anal cancer and they are devastated.
I would like to give you a run down on what has been happening. Dad died last year of lung cancer, BIL's father died in November of heart failure and now BIL is also sick. He has been for, I would say, over a year but had not beem to a Doctors until 2 weeks ago. This man has not been to a Doctor for almost 15 years, just never felt the need. He is an outdoor worker and during the winter months does not work, has been laying around on the couch and we figured he was grieving his Dad, which he probably was but also he wasn't feeling well. My sister tried numerous times to get him to go to a Doctor but he always refused, until 2 weeks ago. He is at the point where he couldn't bear it any longer. He has always been a very private person and has always dealt with life a bit differently then we do.
Now the news is not good, they have ask me to become involved with them and the Doctors, they don't understand the medical part of this or really what is going on so I am there for support and whatever else they may need.
I am sure this does not have a good outcome but need to hear some stories positive and negative of what may be ahead for them, through you and me they will hear of only the positive but I need to know what to expect down the road and what assistance I will be able to be for them.
It's a very complicated situation but they have put their trust in me to help them understand what the Doc says to them.