| Re: not easy to deal with (squamous cell carcinoma @ actinic keratosis
Hey Bill,
I know what you're going through. I was in a state of panic after my doctor found 2 basal cells (most likely), that he will biopsy to make sure a couple weeks from now.
Skin cancer stinks big time, because it makes you paranoid of a new "spot."
Just like you, I have a kid at home (and a wife) who needs me.
My psychologst gave me this advice, which I will adapt for your situation.
1. Your doctor wants to remove the scc next wed. If he thought it was life threatening, he would have had you over at the hospital, and the thing would have been taken off 2 hours later.
2. The doctor believes it hasn't spread. We get into trouble when we start questioning our doctor's competency (I do it all the time, and I need to stop). A good example is, the doctor says "It's a viral lung infection." And you say "No way! I know this thing is CPD!"
3. Anxiety taxes your immune system. Between now and wed, being anxious and worked up is only going to make things worse. Relax.
4. Do everything you can to strengthen your immune system. Exercise, eat right, stay away from booze, etc. DO what you can to stay healthy.
5. The pre-cancerous spots were caught early, and they are being treated.
6. scc rarely spreads, and it's not melanoma.
You can't change what happens, you can only change how you react to it. Your family needs you to be strong. I was punishing my wife by getting full blown panic attacks, freaking out etc. due to a whole host of health problems (chronic bacterial sinusitis, asthma, neuropathy from the drugs, and the skin problems). Now I focus on getting my strength back, staying positive, working out, and being the foundation for my family.
Let us know how it goes.
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