My husband fair skin and had red hair. He has a mole on his back that has grown to the size of a quarter and is bumpy. It also is not symetrical. Very dark. I have begged him to see doctor now for 2 years. He refuses. I think it is larger and bumps grew this last year. He says if he don't go then nothing is wrong. Docs just try to find something. Sounds uneducated right. I don't know what to do. I have told the children (grown) because I just know it is cancer and I hoped they could get him to go. He refuses. I made a derm appt and he canceled it. Got mad when I mentioned it to his dad. I did not want him to develop cancer and his family think I did nothing to help. What do I do. What should I expect? I have lost so many of my family to cancer. I do not want this again or for my children. I want our future grandchildren to have their grandfather.