First--I am SO sorry for what you are going through and everything involved
almost exactly 1 year ago my father was diagnosed with head and neck cancer-specifically, He had throat cancer from YEARS of smoking.
It was an awful time for us all--I never dreamed anything like that would happen to MY Dad.
I have to say though--they caught it early & my dad had the radiation treatments--and today -thank god- he is cancer free-- (well as far as we know...) my dad is a stickler for not wanting to be pitied, etc, lol-Men
I know what you are going through from a daughters angle--and from my mothers angle--if you need/want to talk please post here and I will come back in as often as possible.
You will get through this--you have to be strong. I was dying inside--but I didn't let it show to my parents, I think that made it easier on them
((((BIG HUGS)))) to you and your family!!
& to all of you other posters that are going through this--I am soooo sorry for you all as well--it's just very hard to read everything right now, I apologize. So many memories just hit me...