Re: New info Cancer spread Please Help I Beg
Pathology will look at everything removed and test it for cancer cells....including lymph nodes. Afterwards, with that information they will determine the type of chemo that will be used.
Chemo is a generic word. There are many different chemicals that are used for chemo. Different cancers, different stages of the cancer are part of what determines which chemicals that they use.
My friends that have had chemo, didn't usually feel the effects that day, but the next day or two were bad. But again chemos are all different and people are all different.
It is important that you learn how to keep her eating through her treatments. It is common for some chemo patients to have nausea that prevents them from eating. Talk to doctor for a Rx to help her with nausea. Also ask for a referral to a nutritionist to get her on a healthy diet.
Also if she won't eat call her dr or nurse practioner, but don't fight with her about eating. Be creative.... Jamba juice, etc.
But you need to stay healthy too. If you work yourself up to bad, you'll be no good for anyone and will not be able to help her. Be the friend that she needs.......not what you think that she needs. The best way to be a friend, is to respect their wishes, even if you don't agree with them.
There is a saying...Don't throw the baby out with the bath water. In other words, mom is alive and they are doing procedures to keep it that way. So don't you throw your mind into focusing on her dying. She is alive and needs to be treated that way.
Get counseling if you continue to have trouble with dealing with this part of your mom's life.
Last edited by Anita Porpoise; 08-10-2008 at 11:29 PM.