Originally Posted by Runes
We're hoping to get her a ticket out here to california so we can take her around, treatments and her health withstanding. It's hard not being there to actually look at her while this stuff is going on. (We all used to live in connecticut together but said jerk husband whisked her away to a trailer in Tennesee and we moved to California about a year later).
Thanks for the advice, it's really helpful.
Only thing I can think of adding to the other comments is that cancer sufferers have to endure sooooo many visits to doctors, speacialist, chemo clinics, etc, that it helps to have someone to keep you organised. Such as who are you seeing next and when, how will you get there, what do you think they will tell you, what to you want to say to them, when are next scans due, what other treatments options are there.
If your friend is going to have chemo, then she will need to be in a routine. You can put your "practial hat" on and encourage her to rest up and let other people help her with chores.
Its great when friends just ring up and chat away. Get the cancer talk out of the way first and then chat away.