My Spouse has chronic pain - Caregivers Message Board

HerBigGuy · 12-14-2002, 12:43 AM

My wife has chronic pain from a TMJ injury and then developed cervical dystonia.

She is on a long list of pain and anti-spasmatic meds just to maintain her sanity. When she takes her needed meds, it makes her tired and weak. With our 4 children, much of the daily load falls to me. As I work full time and I am treated for depression, life for me can get pretty weird sometimes.

I really just want to talk with others who are dealing with similar issues in their life.

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ww47w · 01-06-2003, 08:04 AM

Hi, I also am a wife with pain and have no one to talk to, until I found a pain forum and eveyone on it has pain and like to talk to others with pain and about their sicknesses. It is called painworld. Thet are very friendly too. I hope this helps. Dee

ww47w · 01-06-2003, 08:30 AM

Hi,I would be happy to talk with you about your troubles as long as you would not mind hearing mine too. I care for my mom at my home and she is not in pain, but I am. Some times it gets tirersome just because mom is so cranky all the time. Not that I blame her, I would be too. She is 83 and has Emphysema. Better known as COPD. Also Dementia. She keeps going form better to worse, and back again. Also Conjestive Heart Faliure.
Is your wife wanting to talk to someone too. I would be happy to talk to her too. I also have pain. My lower back disc is getting old, and I have a pinched nerve in my left leg. It can be very painful. I hope I hear from you again.....Dee

crowepps · 02-01-2003, 02:00 PM

Wow - it sounds like you're overwhelmed. The best advice I can give you is to take one day at a time, it's the only way to get through it. Are your children old enough to help take some of the daily chores off your shoulders? They may resist, but if you can organize them into a team of helpers so that the whole family is involved it may help. And it will be very useful to them in the future to know how to do laundry, cook, clean, etc.

pepsi925 · 02-10-2003, 01:43 AM

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Originally posted by HerBigGuy:
My wife has chronic pain from a TMJ injury and then developed cervical dystonia.

She is on a long list of pain and anti-spasmatic meds just to maintain her sanity. When she takes her needed meds, it makes her tired and weak. With our 4 children, much of the daily load falls to me. As I work full time and I am treated for depression, life for me can get pretty weird sometimes.

I really just want to talk with others who are dealing with similar issues in their life.

Hi Big guy:

I totally understand what your going thru. My husband is disabled because he had 2 discs in his back removed and he has severe siatic nerve damage. They have him on so many meds he can't remember anything and some days he can't even get out of bed. He is constanly in pain. I work full time and do everything here at home from bills to cleaning and everything in between. That leaves no time for me. I have tried to find a local support group but no luck so far. Some days I feel like I'm losing myself and I should just run away....but I love him... What makes it even harder is that I don't drive. guess i should seriously consider it now. I don't know if this will help but sometimes I stay up all night just for the quietness and time to plan how to conquer the coming weeks or to just plain empty my mind. How do you release your stress or frustrations?

sincerely, Pepsi