Help with My Mom
I am 35 and my mom is 70. She recently had heart surgery and is to go home Friday. She is very anxious about it.
I hope I don't sound like a mean or bad person but I have some real concerns. My mother and I have never had a close relationship, but she is my mother, so I feel some obligation to her. I have no brothers or sisters, my dad passed away 12 years ago, and there is no other family in the area, so everything is pretty much up to me, and my mom's neighbors who help her. She lives 30 minutes away from me. I work full time and I also go to school full time.
My point is this. I don't have the time or the energy to give my mother all the care she needs. On any given day it would be very difficult for me to even get to her house. I have a lot of my own personal issues and honestly I just can't handle taking care of someone else. I don't WANT to take care of anyone else. It's why I don't have kids. But obviously I want her to be ok.
I feel guilty about it. But I just am not equipped to handle it, timewise, mentally, emotionally, or physically. In some ways I am also mad at her, because she caused herself to have so many problems by continuing to smoke for so long. She also has 3 large dogs to take care of.
I am sorry if I am rambling, I just don't know what to do. Thanks...
No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.
Last edited by mikesgirl; 06-13-2007 at 12:12 PM.