My Mom still lives alone, is 72. She has carcinoid cancer in her lungs. This is not what you think of as lung cancer. Her Cat scans look like she has been hit with buckshot. It hadn't changed since it was found by accident/ It is a very slow growing cancer and she has no trouble breathing. It is rarely fatal.
That being said my Mom has been addicted in the past when I was a child to Darvon. She was taken to a hospital to withdraw and she has always been prone to over medicate.
The weird thing is her dr and palliative care are letting her tell them what she needs. She has for the last 5 years, popped darvocet like it;s candy. Dr gives her a script for 500 a month. Then she has gone from a 25 mg fentanyl patch to a 100mg in 6 months When she went to a 75mg is when we totally lost my mom and the kids lost there Mimi. She also uses 2 lidoderm patches a day, ativan and 2 antidepressants. Her eyes are so dilated, her words are slurred and all she does is sleep.
I have talked to her til I'm blue in the face. She is ready to go, but she seems nowhere close to it. My Dad dies of cancer and she is sure the drs give her plenty of medication to let her die like they did my Dad. Maybe they are, I don't know. Her house is a mess and she wants me to come clean it (50 Miles one way). I have MS and am sick too. I have gone before and cleaned it, but I hate to go when it just because she is drugged. She refuses to come here and live because she knows I would stop some of the meds. Oh the palliative nurses say to let her sleep shes not hurting no one.. She is missing out on life and we all miss her. Now she is like a junkie and when we do talk her into going somewhere, her purse is stocked full of meds and she doesn't even hold her head up, even with her favorite grand kids. Any suggestions/ opinions?
Oh and her dr will not talk to us because of Hippa.