Re: Mother is Dying :((
At the last stages of life approach, you really have to step back and allow the person to let their own death be their choice. My daddy was also a DNR, comfort measures only, and when he could no longer swallow....we just gave him popsicles and let the tiny bit of liquid trickle down his throat. That and the liquid morphine gave him peace. He did allow one IV of fluid just so he wouldn't die during the Christmas holidays, and he didn't--he made it 45 minutes into the new year. In the end, as tough as it was, he hovered between this world and the next, it was incredibly beautiful and peaceful and he connected with us and with those who has come to get him. I wouldn't trade those hours with him for anything. It is hard to let go, but you have to. It's selfish to hang on to someone who has no quality of life left because we fear how we will feel.All and IV feeding will do is postppone the inevitable, if that is what you wish to do. Talk to your mom and ask he what SHE wants.
((((hugs)))) this is hard, I know. My heart goes out to you.