My mum (70) has been diagnosed with stage 3 NSCLC. It's in her lungs and lymph nodes, she'll be starting cemotherapy soon.
I want her to come and live with me, she currently lives alone about half an hour drive away. We would be able to convert our dining room into a bedsit and hopefully put a toilet into the understairs cupboard.
Mum and I get on brilliantly, she's my best friend and I love her to bits. My husband is also happy for her to come live with us. However I have a 19-month old son and am due to give birth at Christmas, Mum thinks it'll be too much for me to cope with 2 young children and her at the same time. I disagree, we cope with what we're given and I think it would be less stressful if she were in the same house and I could tend to her wants as and when they arose, rather than having to travel with a baby and a toddler to visit her.
I was wondering what your thoughts were on the subject. Do you think the noise of 2 young children will be very troubling to her? Do you think having someone close by at all times is necessary during chemotherepy? I don't want her to be alone and I don't want her needs to be unmet. I have two brothers, one lives in France and the other is useless.
Also, are there any tips you could recommend if she were to come or even to help her through her treatment? I've tried to research it but there doesn't seem to be much out there, lots for breast cancer and professional carers but not anything very practical for me.
(x-posted on caregivers board)