Re: I feel like a horrible person
The guilt trip is a powerful thing, it's been used on me too so I know how much impact it has on the mind. But just because someone believes something doesn't make it true. She (and that horrible friend of hers) could believe you are the worst daughter on the planet but would it be true? Well, given that most wouldn't have even considered leaving a job or moving, etc., I'd say you are up on most daughters already just from that alone. So your mother would be grossly incorrect on that issue. So you can't get sucked into that but rather realize you are the only one who's stepped up to the plate and gave it a go; even if it ends up that you leave, you gave it your best shot!
I heard once from a bible reference that people cannot sin without intent. So that leads me to believe that intent is everything!!! You had the intention to care for and help your mom. That is enough in itself no matter what happens from here on.
So glad to hear you had a good talk with her!! Stay firm and she might even learn to respect you as a person with your own set of issues, maybe even realize what you are doing for her one of these days! I'd still keep those balls, you know, in case you need them later.
Last edited by Jennita; 12-31-2007 at 11:57 AM.