Re: In law with Dementia
I'm kind of new to the caretaker dilemma, but from my comfortable post of distance, it sounds to me like you need to give yourself permission to let go a little bit. If both ladies have the means for complete assisted living, let it be so. There are many really good facilities that specialize in just this kind of thing. I think it may be like sending a kid to kindergarten - they don't want to go, but once they get there, it's not so bad. It sounds like they've both had full measure and you get to do the same. Would you want to do this to YOUR children? No. I'd bet both mothers, if asked, don't really want to be a burden, either. The end of life is just a little scary but give these ladies some credit. I bet they both have some strength to draw on, still. Allow them that dignity.