Taking it's toll! (New to site)
My wife quit her job at her mother's request to help care for her uncle. I came into the picture much later and though we made commitments and discussed the situation, it is taking a toll on our marriage. We both need support. I can't help but feel taken advantage of and abused. I have lived up to my end of the commitment, but feel she has abandoned her part. I love her and keep hanging on hoping I'm not just being used for financial and medical purposes, which seem to be the only part I play and get nothing in return. The care is in another town, so we don't see each other often. If I don't do the visiting there isn't any. I feel like her mother has taken advantage of her and is draining her of emotion and health by using guilt and family commitment. I keep wondering where the family commitment is to our marriage. Her mother and Uncle would be better off in an assisted living facility, then everyone could have some balance and happiness. Unfortunately for me to mention this would be the unthinkable in their eyes and would only cause resentment towards me. My wife hasn't stepped foot in our home since the end of April. I didn't get married to be alone. I keep wondering why she said yes, knowing her uncle's situation far better than me. It started out as visiting for two or three days off and on every month and has steadily become what appears a permanent full time job. Any support and comments would be appreciated. I've tried to be patient, but it is running out. I don't want to consider divorce, because I do love her. Neither can I see continuing on for years like this. Doesn't she have responsibilities to her marriage. I know I sound selfish and don't mean to, because I have worked with her in every way. the problem is it is all one way. Help!
Last edited by saxxyman; 08-05-2008 at 10:42 AM.
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