Re: always looking for advice
Over the years I have cut people out of my life too. I guess I fear that they are going to leave me or not like me. So I leave them first, so they can't hurt me. It's so weird, but I don't understand myself why I do some of the things that I do. It is never because of what someone else has done to me, but what I think they are going to do to me. For some they cant stand the idea of being denied love- so they figure they will do it before someone else get a chance to do to them. As far as not wanting to see or hear you directly- I think it is the same idea. I can read a text in private and deal with it. If I'm with the person or on the phone I have to react and also be seen as to how I react. It's vary hard and I know from experience that want I wanted was really to be back in their life, but they don't always know how to go about fixing the situation without embaressing them selves. The best thing you can do is just tell him you understand and want to really see him- perhaps even for something dump like to give him something that is completely unrelated to anything. Then when you him just act like everything is okay and you are fine and nothing has happened and things are great. Maybe a little later you might say something like I love you and will always be there for you even if you need to take time away sometime from the relationship. I will be waiting for you and I wont just let you walk out of my life. There is nothing you can do that will make me not like you. It is just something you might have to deal with from time to time. What ever you do is don't get mad, don't take it personally and really try to be there for them. And just know that they have a reason for their behavior in there own mind. It might not make sense to you though. I wish I could tell you more- sometime i don't even understand myself vary well so its hard to explain "WHAT SOMEONE ELSE MIGHT BE DOING OR WHY"
I hope that this helps.