goldyfm

Lily, Two weeks into my marriage, my husband suffered a carotid artery aneurysm that required emergency micro-nuerosurgery to repair. Even though he recovered successfully from the effects of the aneurysm, he was left with residual epilepsy. I know that each episode would leave him with some amnesia. I was pregnant at the onset of those seizures, and like you was unknown to him. It would take hours for him to realize what was happening and to come around to reality. Also, he suffered from terrible headaches from that time forward and was frail and afraid of having the same thing happen once more. I know this is a small resemblance to what you have witnessed with your own husband, but the impact of not knowing what was coming at me from one minute to another was very similar. I know my husband was never the same after that health scare and it's complications. I even had "good intentioned" friends and relatives say they would not blame me if I walked away from the marriage. That was a harsh reality to how the situation was viewed by an outsider. I know in my heart that I could never have done so in a million years as I loved the person that he was and I know with time, you two can overcome the obstacles and make a meaningful life for your family. Family comes with all kind of obstacles, even in the face of good health. I know faith in each other and faith that you can find the strength to conquer all obstacles is all one can ask for in a situation like this. Together, we raised our family and even though it was difficult at times, I would not trade any moment of that time for all the money in the world. Our time together was priceless. Life doesn't hand out guarantees. I do hope that helps ease your mind.