Originally Posted by lauren34
hi, i am in my 30s and living with parents ( i know thats bad). I live with them because they are both disabled and need a lot of help. I dont work because caregiving takes most of my time. I am just wondering sometimes i feel like i am ripping them off living at home this long and not paying rent also they give me a hundred to two hundred a month for helping out. Am i doing something wrong? I do all the cooking, housework, take care of medication and all daily needs that require help. thanks for opinions
NO! If you are giving your parents love, care, doing housework, cooking, washing clothes, running errands etc then you are definitely not "living off your parents."
If you were to call a home health agency and a maid service for estimates for the activities they perform, I truly believe that you would discover that purchasing those services to replace you would consume not only a larger portion of your parents funds but quite possibly some of your salary. That is not to say that you should not ever consider additional help when you need it...just be aware of the "monetary value" of your loving care.
In many cases, I'd wager that family can provide an emotional connection that is far more important than just the physical care that can be purchased.
I made the choice to work and finish college while I was taking care of my parents. My regret was that I did not "stay home" more.
Bless you and take care of yourself TOO!