Originally Posted by gavrs
I have been advised by Kate's counsellor to basically ignore anything Kate does that causes problems
This is a tough one indeed.
That's like saying ignore the elephant in the room,even though you have to curl up in the fetal position to get any rest.
You will need some time for yourself or you will end up resenting he(if it hasn't already began).
Try having a heart-to-heart with her therapist and tell her how you are feeling about what she advised.
Just a suggestion...