Hi all, My mom who is 92 moved in with me 2 years ago. The first year was just getting used to her living with my husband and myself. After we got the kinks out and we got a routine things went fine. Or, I should say, as fine as can be while taking care of your aging parent.
Then last year I got hurt at work, and with many complications and issues, my ability to care for her got very lax. She can't shower by herself or bend over at all, and yet I couldn't get down without so much pain to wash or dry her legs, put on socks etc. Being 92 her memory isn't that great, so I went down to 1 shower a week. Washing her hair was the same. Many other things I did for her before the injury, I just couldn't do. And I would get short with her because I didn't want to be bothered.
Now that I have found something for pain that helps quite a bit, I am back to caring for her better. When I got her in the shower the second time in the same week, she says to me..."I am so glad you feel better, I didn't like taking showers only once a week"
Now I feel so bad and so guilty. All that time I thought she didn't remember. Maybe it had to be the way it was. But I am glad to get it off my chest.