Originally Posted by katiegrace
Hi, I have been dealing with celiac spur now for months, I didn't know it till I had the tests done. I am somewhat overwhelmed by this. I have never had much sucess on any diet, I am finding it so hard to stick to this. Someone please tell me it gets easier and I will become more knowledgeable on what I can and can't eat>
Yes, it gets easier to deal with. One of the things you will have to decide for yourself is whether you're going to make every effort to have a gluten-free diet, or if you want to see how far you can "cheat" before you have obvious symptoms that are too uncomfortable to ignore.
I have chosen to be as gluten-free as possible. I have not lost friends because of this -- they ask what they can serve for dinner when we're (my DH and me) invited to their homes for dinner. I have fewer temptations for junk food in my house, because too many of them are wheat-based.
It really helps to have the cooperation of your family to make the house as gluten-free as possible. If your family objects, then you'll have to work with them to keep wheaty things and flour separate from your foods. My husband cooperates by eating gluten-free at home, because he knows he can order anything he wants when we go to a restaurant. He has become an expert at making corn tortillas and buckwheat noodles.
One of the advantages of eliminating wheat from the diet is the opportunity to try other things that you wouldn't have even considered before. I make my own bread with buckwheat and millet and find it really tasty. Bread made without wheat doesn't need to be kneaded -- this saves time and energy.
About the time that I was really feeling sorry for myself about being limited in my choices, I started to hear from friends and read about people who had REALLY serious food allergies. I don't have to worry about dying from being around traces of peanuts. I don't have to worry about explosive diarrhea and major cramps from eating trace amounts of milk (my gluten symptoms are much milder -- I have acid indigestion, that only gets really painful after a few weeks of indulging). In other words, I started noticing that other people have it much worse than I do, and that helped me out of my "feeling sorry for myself" stage -- well, I still do from time to time, but not as bad!
I cook at home mostly. Since I have only gluten-free items at home, I've had the chance to learn new cooking techniques and discover new foods. I can cook Indian, Mexican, German, Japanese, and much more. I have learned to base the starch component of the meal around potatoes, rice, corn, gluten-free pasta, beans, lentils, buckwheat. My diet is much more varied now than it was before.
I've learned to be grateful for the one or two items on a restaurant menu that I can eat, and concentrate on the social reasons for the visit to the restaurant -- I'm there to visit friends, and that's really more important. At parties, I'm glad of the excuse not to overeat, because before I discovered that I have gluten intolerance, I used to not have any control over how much cake and cookies and other crap I stuffed in my mouth.
I haven't lost weight because of not having wheat -- there's still lots of ways to get calories
If you decide that you don't want to be "deprived" of your favorite wheaty foods or eat differently in front of your friends, then that's your choice. But even if you notice that you can eat "this much" wheat without terrible symptoms, you'll still be subjecting your body to extra stress, and the damage is being done to your intestines and other systems in your body. I can't stay on a weight-loss diet, either, just like you. But I also don't like pain. So I think of this diet more as an adventure than as a deprivation.
And I try real hard to remove the "moral" element from any diet. I'm a worthwhile person regardless of which diet I follow. At the moment, I'm merely one who is painfree and healthier, and any value judgments about my morality must be made on other grounds, such as whether I torture babies or rob banks or donate to the animal shelter.
Hang in there -- you'll work out ways to deal with this.