CP and Sex - Cerebral Palsy Message Board

wewon · 05-14-2006, 08:47 AM

My friends daughter just turned 18 and will be going off to college in September. She is anxious about fitting in. When I asked what the concern was she said she wasn't sure she could have sex so no guy would want her!!!
I suggested asking her doctor if sex was possible but I am sure she would like to hear from someone else with CP.

Steffers2318 · 05-14-2006, 03:20 PM

I know that fitting in and being seen as "desirable" are common issues when someone is disabled. As far as sex, I guess it depends on her specific physical problems/limitations...I'm sure she would just have to experiment to see what she can do. But tell her not to let that stop her from meeting a nice guy who will be willing to work with her!

write · 05-16-2006, 12:06 PM

I agree with Steffers

Although I'm not really sure I should be giving advice since I struggle with relationships, I have had a 3 year relationship. She has to put herself out there and do a little experimentation to see what her comfort level is. And besides meeting the right person makes everything easier in life (as far as relationships go)

NJCrip · 05-26-2006, 01:45 AM

We all struggle with fitting in. Like most freshmen, she will have to find as new niche and peer group. With regard to sex, where there is a will there is a way. I would suggest a book called Enabling Romance.

NJCrip

LisainFlorida · 05-26-2006, 06:13 PM

Just a note of encouragement. My son is a perfectly healthy young man. He is 24 years old. He met his girlfriend online about 6 years ago and she has just moved in with him. She has CP and is almost totally disabled.
My son does not look at her disability. He loves her for who she is.
There is hope. I am so proud of my son and his girlfriend is a sweetheart.

I look forward to having her for a daughter in law.