Hello everyone. I'm new, so i'll introduce myself - Cerebral Palsy Message Board

rhales199 · 10-02-2006, 09:55 PM

Hello!! My name is Becky. I have been married these last eight years to a wonderful man named Ty who just happens to have Cerebral Palsy.
Let me tell you a bit about him. His CP affects him in these ways - he is legally blind, has a speech impairment, has problems with dexterity, and has balance/coordination issues,which is why he uses a wheelchair quite a bit. His CP doesn't affect him mentally, in fact he is one of the most intelligent people I know. He has spastic cerebral palsy, but thankfully doesn't have to take any daily meds. He is the only person w/ cp i have ever met who doesn't have to take meds daily (in no way am i saying that meds are a bad thing, I myself have to take meds daily, and they have been a lifesaver for me. I just think it's a wonderful thing that he doesn't have to).
We have had many trials in our married life, many of which I'm sure I will share in future posts.
But i married him because I love the person i know he is on the inside.
I am glad I found this site, and will surely post in the future, as I have a few questions of my own to ask, and I love to give hope and advice, as well as share my experiences, with others, especially people who are in similar situations as my hubby and I are.
Thanks!!!

Midget · 10-02-2006, 10:51 PM

Welcome.

Malwm01 · 10-03-2006, 07:26 PM

Welcome to HealthBoards, Becky! I'm Michelle, 23 y/o with CP.

Steffers2318 · 10-04-2006, 11:27 AM

It's always nice to see new people (especially able-bodied people dating/married to people with CP, as dating tends to be an issue for some of us...well, at least for me

). Welcome

rhales199 · 10-04-2006, 01:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Steffers2318

It's always nice to see new people (especially able-bodied people dating/married to people with CP, as dating tends to be an issue for some of us...well, at least for me

). Welcome

Thanks for the nice welcome everyone!!
Dating/ getting out was also an issue for Ty (my husband).
I think dating was an issue for me also, as a look back. as a teenager, a big part of me really didn't care about dating, but yes, there was a part of me that did, too. I am tall (6 feet), and rather a plain jane. not exactly what most guys are looking for.
When I was in high school, the only date i went on was one where I asked the guy. Same thing in college until I met ty, and there again i was the one that first asked him out.
I also have a few able bodied single adult friends, and it's not easy for them, either.
Yes, dating can be tough. Just remember, 'you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince'.
And if a person can't accept you for who you are, Cp and all, that's their fault, not yours.

the best thing i can think of to say is don't let dating issues ruin your self esteem. It's not worth it. As for me myself, I know I am a wonderful person, even if others can't seem to see it.

Have a great day!