Dating - CP bombshell - Cerebral Palsy Message Board

skinnyguy74 · 11-06-2007, 08:57 PM

I have dated only a few woman in my life, many have been met online. All have been able-bodied. I like to be honest and upfront from the beginning, therefore I try to explain my CP from the get-go. I have tried being very detailed, I have tried playing it off as "no biggy".

Well, after a long absence from online dating, I have met a beautiful, very intelligent woman. She is a few years older than I (I'm 33), and can tell she possesses a progressive view on life. I am hoping that when I do tell her about the CP, she will either be totally cool with it, or at least be willing to learn. I'm at the point in my life where I really want to settle down, and am really tired of rejection. I know I cannot force anyone to feel one way or the other.

Advice?

JellyRJFan · 11-07-2007, 09:33 PM

no advice here... haven't really dated myself, but I just wanted to wish you luck with the new relationship!

sobannon · 11-08-2007, 04:32 AM

If this woman is really interested, and not just looked for a casual thing, she will understand. Some women can be very understanding and some are very superficial (and vice versa). It is wonderful to hear that you lead a fulfilling life and seem to be self sufficient.

Just be honest, don't hold out for too long, and hope for the best.

As the mother of a boy with CP (not quite two years old), I can only hope that I am able to raise a man who possesses the same qualities and can live a fulfilling life.

I wish you all of the luck in the world.

Amy

CortneyMarie · 11-10-2007, 05:19 PM

Did you tell her? How did it go?

I think perhaps it was easier for me because I am a woman but I never found my CP to be huge issue with dating, but I did meet my hubby online, and was very upfront with what I can (and can not) do from the get go.

anxiouscpguy · 11-19-2007, 10:31 PM

I'm in the same boat. I meet this great girl online and we've been talking on the phone for about a month and a half. She really wants me to come see her. I've yet to tell her I have CP (which is mild and pretty much only affects my left hand and mouth muscles). She seems very compassionate and understanding based on our many phone conversations, which usually last for at least 2 hours, sometimes 4 or 5. We've seen many pics of eachother and she says I'm very cute but my CP isnt very noticeable through photos. Telling her is probably going to be one of the hardest things I've had to do in a while because I've fallen for her and no one likes rejection, especially if its do to something that you have no control over and can do nothing about.