As he is getting older his behaviour has gotten quite bad - Cerebral Palsy Message Board

sjl700 · 11-25-2007, 07:05 AM

hi i'm wonderinf if anyone can give me some advice, my son who is 4 +1/2 has mild cp. As he is getting older his behaviour has gotten quite bad wont listen, stubbon, will carry on doing things that he knows is wrong and gets told off for.its like he can't help it sometimes. he is inetlligent and knows the difference form right and wrong. is there anyone who deals with a similer condition that can help me with advice
thank you

CortneyMarie · 11-25-2007, 08:51 AM

I am not a parent, but I teach sunday school to a room full of four year olds and a lot of them do the same thing. Plus, I have a brother who never feared consequence. We would tell him not to do something and he'd look right at us and do it anyways. He eventually out grew it. I think that age is when kids really start to test boundaries and such. I would not be quick to connect the behavior to his CP. Give him the same consequences as you would a regular kid and be consistent.

lisaontheloose · 11-25-2007, 10:53 AM

My son has mild cp and is now 28. If your child does not have a cognitive delay, then he should be treated the same way as any other 4 year old with the exception of expectations to do with his disability, which would be physical issues. Don't feel sorry for him and don't let him get away with things you wouldn't let another child get away with. If you do, you are not doing him any favors because others will not be as nice to him as his family will be and he won't understand why other people don't like him.

Lisa

Marcus&DeanaMum · 11-26-2007, 12:40 AM

It sounds like usual 4 year old behavious my son does the exact same thing and does not have cp.

mountainrecluse · 12-22-2007, 10:30 AM

If he's really out of control, and you really want to teach him to behave, that is wonderful. He will find life easier because people will like him. It can't be all done at once, but little by little. The most important thing is consistency. I would pick the one thing you want to change the most, and decide what the consequences will be if he disobeys in that again. Then tell him he has a new rule, what it is for, and determine within yourself not to back down, even if he is angry, or you are tired. Keep it up, don't back down, and he will begin to respect you, and obey in that thing. If you ever let it go, he'll test you again. Children all do that. From that first thing, you can change the rest, one by one. You will be amazed to see him improve! Good luck to you!