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Kimberly617 · 03-23-2001, 07:01 PM

I have a question. There is an 8 year old boy and about a year ago we found out the he was molested. He seemed ok until recently. My step daughter and niece are around him a lot and we were told by the two little girls which are 3 and 5 that the "little boy took off his panties and then they took off theirs and they sat on top of him" What do you think of this? I am a little confused. I wonder if it is the molestation or if it is just sexual curiosity. What do you think?????

plymouth · 03-23-2001, 07:25 PM

I think the boy is acting out the molestation. In my opinion, with what you know about this boy, you should not have and should not now allow this boy to be with your children except when supervised by yourself.

~mandy~ · 03-24-2001, 06:02 AM

You need to go talk to this boys parents ASAP to make them aware of the problem. He is demonstrating very dangerous behavior. He needs cousling. If this type of behavior isn't stoped now he could end up just like his molestor. If the boy's parents aren't willing to help i would call social services to see what can be done to force the family to help him. He needs help now while he's still young enough to accept it.

Lynn893 · 03-25-2001, 08:07 PM

I feel very much for this little boy.
Children learn what they are taught by others. Look at what he was taught. He needs help. He needs to know that what happened was not his fault. He also needs to know that it is wrong to act out what he was taught.
He needs councelling very badly, with a trained specialist. Talk with his parents, but be very discrete and sympathetic or they will feel that you are getting into business that does not concern you. I know I didn't say that right, but I hope you understand what I'm trying to say.
Get him help. Now.

Peace

and God bless and help this innocent child before he harms others like he was harmed.

ANP · 04-07-2001, 09:34 PM

I really feel for all who are involved. Kids only know what they are taught, and until someone tells them that there is some behavior that is unacceptable, they will contiue. Did you talk to your daughter about the situation?
This happened to someone close to me also.
The counselors advised to talk to the victim one time about the situation, then drop it> you don't want to keep bringing it up, in fear they will think that they are at fault.
You should contact the boys parents or guardian though, so they can get him some help. If his parents are not the type you can talk to then you can contact the children's service dept. in your area. They will set YOU up with a counselor to talk to, because it is hard for a parent or relative to deal with. They will also help with how you can talk to the girls about it.
Hope any of this helps you.