8 yr old almost 9 and his friend - Children's Health Message Board

jbraden03 · 09-02-2002, 12:02 AM

today my son and his friend were up in his room playing and i went to check on them when i walked in they were naked and playing with each others penis, kind of like masterbating each other. i was just wondering what is going on with this. i havent told my wife yet cause i don't know if this is normal, and i don't want her to worry. please help me with this

CINDERELLA · 09-02-2002, 01:23 AM

I am no expert in this field but I have a 9 year old daughter. I imagine your son and his friend have discovered that touching down there feels nice and is probably pretty innocent, however they should know at that age that being naked is not really acceptable when playing. It sounds like it is time to sit down and have one of those chats. P.S. Some 10 year old boys at our school have been caught looking up porn sites on the school computer, so I guess this is the age they start to get curious.

jbraden03 · 09-02-2002, 09:34 PM

what if a girl was touching him there what would i say to that.

Greenberry · 09-02-2002, 09:55 PM

I can tell you, the first thing I would do is FREAK OUT!!!!! In private of course, and only for a moment.

After that, I would take my son aside and gently explain to him that it is TOTALLY inappropriate for him to play without his clothes on, and that it is inappropriate for him to EVER touch another person's private parts, or to have someone else touch his--which would just be a STRONG restatement of things that I have already told him. Of course in the future I would have to modify that statement in later discussions with him, but at his age, IT IS inappropriate for him to be touched or touching someone else. I would probably also brief my husband on the situation and get him to have the "sex" chat with the boy, if he hadn't already. Good luck, and I would do the exact same if it was a girl...

mlgable · 09-02-2002, 11:50 PM

If it was a girl he was playing with then he most definately needs to be told that his genitals are private and not something for others to play with. Since you obviously haven't had a talk with your son about his gentials being private and not for others to touch it is high time you have this chat with him as well as a chat about sex, pregancy and all that stuff. You also need to fill your wife in on what is going on so that you are both in agreement about what you will tell him.