10yr old & 12yr old daughters wetting pants - Children's Health Message Board

Homemom · 05-23-2003, 11:48 AM

My two daughters do not have a problem going to the bathroom in their pants, when they are too busy doing something "more important". We have punished & punished and can't get them to stop...what can we do??

They also do not wipe well and don't care if they leave "stuff" in their underwear. Please send some advice.

dea4 · 05-23-2003, 04:50 PM

What type of punishment have you tried? Have you tried taking things away, like a favorite toy or something they really like, taking away TV time or time with friends, not allowing any deserts. Or have you tried rewardig them if they stay dry and don't do it, nothing big just a small reward, an ice cream cone, a new book or something they may really like.
Hope some of this helps.
Good luck!

mommyof5 · 05-24-2003, 05:18 AM

Have you tried explaining about infections and stuff and how unsanitary it can be? That they may smell, that they may lose friends over this (who wants to be associated with a kid that age who's doing that?). Have you talked to the doctor for possible medical problems? Could they be acting out for attention? Are they trying to tell you something?

Just some ideas, I don't think punishment is the answer in a situation like this, but that's my opinion. Hope I've helped a bit.

mommyof5

*SoccerMom* · 05-24-2003, 10:08 PM

Hi Homemom~
Welcome

Man, this is one that I haven't heard often. My niece did this when she was 12 but we were told that it was her way of dealing with the trama of dealing with the death of her little brother. Has anything happened to them emotionally? Any chance of abuse? <I don't mean to suggest things but just trying to help> Sometimes kids get lazy and don't wipe well. When my son started helping with laundry and saw what I called "skid marks" in his underwear a few times he was EMBARRASSED and asked why they do that...I reminded him about me asking him to wipe better and it hasn't happened again.

If you rule out reasons and truly think it is laziness, I would make them wear Depends or Pullups or something. That would make me angry to think they were 10/12 years old and were too lazy to go potty...I am sure that it is hard to deal with.

Keep us updated and let us know what works. I have 2 girls coming up and who knows what I will face in the future!

MonicaAlabama · 05-24-2003, 11:00 PM

I had to reply on this one too. We seem to have alot of the same problems. My son, who is 10, still wets the bed at times. He has not wet the bed in about 2 weeks now, he is taking new medications for his ADHD. Before, it was alot to do with the medicine he was on, it would knock him out at night, and he wouldnt wake up to use the restroom. I bought him some depends, and he wore them a few nights, but said he felt like a baby with a diaper on, and he took it upon himself, to set his alarm for 11 every night, to use the restroom. This has helped him alot. Just an idea

Good luck